Alright! So today is day 1 of our 30 day challenge. The question of the day is:
What is a characteristic of yours that you felt may have hindered you before but has turned out to be very beneficial?
Ok so I am a very forgiving person by nature which you wouldn’t think is bad but I have found it to hinder me in my intimate relationships.
You would think that everybody is out here just trying to be the best versions of themselves and following the Golden Rule but that just aint it.
Some people are naturally selfish while others are selfless. Selfish people being the takers of the world and obviously selfless people being the givers.
I have found in the past that whenever I was wronged I would get mad but I could only stay mad for maybe a week at the absolute most and then I was over it. This isn’t a bad thing because you’re not meant to harbor ill feelings over an extended amount of time. It’s bad for your health or something .
For me specifically though, when I would forgive, my memory of the wrong doings would also vanish with it. This ended up translating into me welcoming all forms of maltreatment and disrespect.
This began to really weigh on me because I couldn’t understand why people wouldn’t accept and appreciate my willingness to move on. They would just continuously keep packing on the bs.
This is when I took the phrase “What you allow is what will continue” to heart. I also realized it is ok to be forgiving but it is not ok to accept subpar treatment from ANYBODY.
I started aligning myself with more of the selfLESS people of the world and disassociating myself with the selfISH people and my life has improved drastically.
Don’t get me wrong, this is something I still struggle with sometimes because not every dilemma is going to present itself in the same light. However, when I realize somebody just does not care about me no matter how much I go out of my way to be forgiving and patient, they gotta go.
So what’s your characteristic? Thanks for reading!