Throughout my life I have come to find that the sooner you find out what works for you, the sooner you couldn’t care less about what works for anybody else. I think at certain times in our lives, we seek validation or we’re afraid to not have the approval of certain people. Like..you literally find yourself doing things to please people you know…or don’t know just to satisfy some sense of belonging.
Then it’s like you get to a point where you’re so sick of suppressing who you are for your surroundings that you finally realize, you’re the one that has to live with yourself. When you get to that point, the best thing you could do is everything in your power to make you the best and happiest you that you can be. So with all that being said, here are 3 quick ways I do me.
To some it may seem intimidating but honestly this has become one of my favorite things to do and it makes me so happy. I pick a destination or an event that I would like to attend and I just go. I get lost, I enjoy my own company, I make memories, and find the beauty in whatever is before me. I may even meet up with friends if they’re in the area but for the most part, it’s me moving to my own agenda. I remember a time where if my initial plans were with another person or even a group and they cancelled, I just wouldn’t go..until one day I did and I haven’t looked back ever since. I actually prefer to travel alone these days. Less hassle. More Joy.
In my opinion, I have endured a lot of painful things in my late teens/early twenties. I used to absolutely need a friend I could lean on to get through tough times with and then when I would get by myself, it’s like I was suffocating. After that, I vowed to never put myself in positions that I couldn’t forgive myself for. Do I still make some pretty trash decisions sometimes? Yes, but I can also look at myself in the mirror, identify where I went wrong, and press forward and I think that is an ability that is crucial to possess. You won’t always be able to please other people and in knowing that, I care more about pleasing myself than them.
The word No
I’ve talked about this before on here but it is truly something that I struggle with. Whether its not wanting to tell somebody no because I don’t want to hurt their feelings, saying no but not standing firm in it, or just strictly saying no but then giving a full explanation behind it; no has always been a word I’ve had to mentally prepare for. There’s actually very few people in this world that you owe an explanation to. If it doesn’t affect your money, provide you food or multiple orgasms then less is more. I used to be in a mental space where saying no was crippling to me because I was afraid of repercussions. I had to get over that quick because if you can’t tell somebody no without wondering whats next, that situation will never work in your favor.
So these are just a few things that help me be comfortable in who I am. I know these may seem pretty basic but I’ve found that keeping the small things in check make for more peace should bigger things decide to try my life. What are some ways that you do you and remain comfortable in your own skin? Let me know in the comments below. As always, thank you for reading!