Age aint nothing but…experience

Have you ever seen somebody that’s very attractive and you spark up a convo like the smooth talker you are only to find out they’re 30 with no kids and has never been married??

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Instead of appreciating this person for the unicorn they CLEARLY are you can’t tell me you don’t automatically think:

WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU?!?!

WHY DOESN’T ANYBODY WANT YOU?!?

WHY HAVEN’T YOU LEFT IT IN ANYBODY AT THIS POINT?

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We have SO many questions right! Why is that? Why do we have preconceived ideas about what is supposed to happen by certain points in our lives?

We look at what’s considered “normal” and when we see something outside of that, it’s intriguing or maybe even off putting depending on what we’re experiencing.

With so many different walks of life, culture, and exposure it’s hard to say what’s really “normal” for a person to experience at a certain age.

We look at the average 18 year old and think “Ok this person is new to the world. They probably don’t have much money, they’re in college or working a minimum wage job.

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For some people that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Lets say you met somebody that was 20 and they owned multiple properties, ran their own successful business, and had no debt? Whats the first thing you’re going to want to know…besides if they’ll hire you? You’re gonna wanna know how the hell they did it.

I’ll be the first to say that when I was 20, I was just trying to sober up enough to make it to work on time. See below for accurate representation of my life at 20.

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So you can see why  somebody at that age having that level of stability would absolutely blow my mind.

Lets say you met somebody that was 35 who decided they were going to embark on a completely different career path where they had to start at the bottom. To some that may seem crazy because for most people, your 30s is when you’re supposed to be establishing stability and comfort for your life.

Pouring 10-15 years into something that you had no passion for might be the crazy part for others and the most sensible thing to do WOULD be to develop yourself and focus your efforts towards something that actually makes you happy. Isn’t that the ultimate goal after all?

Let’s carry this idea over into the realm of relationships since that’s where we usually see age playing a big part.

We see a lot of couples out here with significant age differences. Some more shocking than others for legality purposes but let’s put a few things into perspective.

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It is known that women naturally mature faster than men so seeing a woman with an older man isn’t usually too shocking. Which then explains why men sometimes need somebody a little younger to really level the playing field a bit.

When we see those huge age gaps though, we can’t help but wonder what a 26 year old would have in common with a 40 year old. Even on a physical level, one person hasn’t even reached their prime while the other might be starting to reach the end of theirs…we’re only assuming though because you know the old heads be knowing what they’re doing.

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Who’s to say what the 26 year old has or hasn’t experienced in their life. When it comes to relationships, I think we all just want somebody that can understand us.

It all comes down to exposure and experience. You just gotta meet people on your level.

If I met somebody who appealed to the things I consider important and treated me the way I want to be treated, you better believe I’m not turning that down due to age.

As for everything else in life, don’t let yourself be convinced that you can’t pursue something because you’re too young. Don’t be convinced that you can’t start over because you’re too old. Don’t miss out on love or anything that makes life worth living because you were too caught up on the way things are “supposed” to be.

Your life experiences will shape you for where you’re supposed to be.

What are your thoughts on defining maturity and phases of life by age? Let me know!

Thanks for reading!!

XO,

LO

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Stay Down for the Come Up

I believe in a work hard play hard lifestyle. I believe in rewarding yourself for accomplishments whether they’re minor or life changing. The biggest part here is the work hard piece. Everybody loves to use social media as a way to measure their success but 90% of those people aren’t showing the “work hard” piece. Of course everything is going to look like a party when people are celebrating their wins and I’m sure its well deserved, but what are you going to celebrate if there’s no real work going on?

Let’s talk about a few ways to stay focused and make sure we’re making the most out of our 24 hours. The first one is going to be to:

Make a plan

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Literally write it out step by step. Think about everything you need to do in between those steps. Consider multiple backup plans so you don’t get discouraged should one of your paths get blocked.

 

BE ABOUT IT

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Being a person of action is the biggest piece of this puzzle. You can write everything down until you run out of pages but if you don’t make a consistent effort then all you have are dreams. Once you see your hard work come to fruition, it’ll make you even more hungry for progress and success. Set a deadline. Sign up for that test. Enter that competition.

Stick to the plan

I only say this because most things accomplished in life take time and over the duration of the process, you’re going to come across distractions or setbacks. This part is crucial because this is when most people give up and decide its easier to chill where they’re comfortable and that couldn’t be further from the truth. Stay encouraged.

Pack for the weather

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Like i said, distractions and setbacks are a part of life. While they suck in the moment, usually good lessons come from them so be prepared for whatever storm you may have to weather on your journey. Maybe you’ll have to downsize your life, maybe you’ll have to pick up an extra job but whatever it is make sure you humble yourself and make the necessary sacrifices for the come up.

Mind yours

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This has been something that has made all the difference for me. It’s so easy to look at somebody else and compare but honey..DON’T! Not all competition is healthy and when it comes to your specific journey, there’s nobody else out there that you can compare to. Even if they’ve been through certain circumstances, people handle things differently so your BEST bet is to just mind your own business. Maybe that involves doing a social media detox for a while or literally just spending time with yourself to balance out your energy to gain focus. Whatever it is, make sure that it concerns you and nobody else.

Check-ins

Every now and then, just check in with yourself. Make sure you’re still on a path that you are passionate about. Make sure your progress is on track and even if you’ve had to make detours that you’re giving yourself a timeline to get back in the game. Don’t be afraid to take a break or even reward yourself. Whatever it takes to keep you moving along your journey.

Alright guys so that’s all I have on staying down for the come up. It doesn’t matter if its a month or a year, just make sure you’re out here putting in work so when its time to celebrate you can join in on the champagne and hit your victory dance.

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Thanks for reading!

XO,

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