Ok guys! So I want to get serious with you all for this one.
How many times has something completely ruined your soul but you just keep on moving because…well..what else are you going to do?
How many times have you tried to convince yourself that depression is just a state of mind and that if you just so happened to be depressed, that meant you were mentally weak?
Hopefully i’m not alone in this. Sometimes life can get the best of you and just absolutely knock the wind out of you. Theoretically you just want to give up and quit life but realistically you have to keep on going because there’s just GOT to be more to life than your current emotional state…right?
So you smile and you speak to people, you put your body and mind on autopilot to get through the days but when you’re alone, everything hits you. It’s like a numbing feeling. You don’t want to talk to anybody. You don’t want to do anything. You have no energy to even conjure up the energy (yes you need energy to have the energy) to go out and do things to get your mind off of whatever it is that has you so down.
You sleep, eat, and maybe stare at the tv. Your mind is either cruelly replaying whatever you’re trying to get past or its just checked out and time just passes by. Hour by hour..day by day…until now it’s been a couple of weeks that you’ve been in this slump.
Nobody has asked if you’re okay because you put on a facade when you have to go out into the world. This particular post is for the person who is having internal battles with depression but doesn’t feel like you have the time to decipher and sift through what really has you so down. This is for the person that feels like they have nobody to talk to that will help get them past this point.
Here are a couple of things that I do when I feel myself losing a grip on life:
1. ALLOW MYSELF TO EXIST
Sometimes the best thing to do IS to go through the motions for a few days. I consider this the phase where I’m just coasting and storing up all the energy i’m going to need to face whatever it is I need to face.
Honestly, this is just my way of attempting to release whatever pain, anger, hurt, or any other feelings that I may experiencing. I submerge myself in a pity party for at least a day so when it’s time for me to be rational I won’t have any extra emotions lingering around.
3. GET TO WORK
This is when you have to adopt the fighter mindset. You have to realize that how you’re feeling isn’t who you are nor is it how you want to feel. Spend some time with yourself and think specifically about what it is you don’t want to think about. Break it into a list of things you can control and things you cannot. For the things you CAN control, start creating solutions. Whether it’s financial, emotional, physical, or spiritual..start thinking of ways you can better the situation. Start small since you’re basically running on E and gain acceleration once you’ve gotten the proper momentum. For the things you CANNOT control, you need to make peace with them. Whether it’s a death, a broken heart, or major set back in your life…realize that you cannot change those things. That person is gone. That person shattered your heart. You’re already back wherever unfortunate circumstances have placed you. What you’ll find though, is even with the things you cannot control, you can still control yourself in the situation and make your best effort to get through it.
4. MAKE A DECISION
This is the part where you need to be intentional about wanting to move forward. If you need to seek therapy..do that. If you need a gym membership to help you grind out the initial stages..do that. In everything you do make sure you are making a conscience effort to be positive.
The mind is a very powerful force and we are all capable of doing what me may not believe we can. This post is not to be confused with people who have a chemical imbalance that is triggering some sort of depression. Please seek the professionals for that but do not rely on that medicine to bring you happiness.
Exercise your mind, be patient,and be confident that you have what it takes to bounce back. Bad times don’t last. You may be going through all of these stages alone but that should only make you proud of the fact that if you had nobody else, you have yourself. Recognize the fact that you may be depressed and fight the good fight to get yourself back on solid ground!
Please remember that everybody is different and what may be minor to you could be major to them. If somebody does come to confide in you, don’t make their problems seem small.
I hope I was able to help somebody with this post. I know all of these things are easier said than done but I promise if you put in the work and stay consistent, you WILL experience positive outcomes.
Let me know how you combat depression. Thank for reading!